- Face your problems without fear: Figure out what the problem is, by admitting there is a problem in the first place and where it stems from. Acknowledging it is tough but a valuable first step. After all, you cannot find a solution to a problem if you don’t know and cannot identify what the problem is
- Deal with it: Grudges are often formed when not confronted and left to sit and simmer, until the cup runneth over. Address the issue at its infant stage before your resentment can grow into something more. You’ll need to try and not be judgemental when doing this and find mutual ground to start a narrative and start talking about it. If you feel it’s not the sort of issue you can clear out or clarify with someone else, then work it out on your own and deal with it
- Say (but mean it) “I am sorry”: The more you mean these simple words, the harder they become to say. Consider that not every situation is someone else’s fault. As they say, it takes two to tango. Taking the higher road shows depth of character and wisdom on your part, if you can bring yourself to own up to a fault and apologise for any issues you may have caused with sincerity. It’s true that it may not be your fault entirely, but if you can nip a forest fire in the bud, then a little bruised ego for your personal wellbeing is a small price to pay
- Just do meaningful things: Make an effort to keep yourself occupied and busy with things you are passionate about, are skillful at, and make you feel good about yourself. When you set small, achievable tasks and goals for yourself and accomplish them by rewarding yourself, you will feel self-validation as opposed to needing to seek validation from others. By the time you fulfil bigger tasks and goals, you would have reconditioned yourself to think and feel more about things that bring you comfort, joy, and happiness than that which brings you down
- Nothing else matters: Learn to value yourself and things that have meaning, while also valuing people who really matter. Self-healing will start once you start to value yourself and those people and things in your life that matter most. Work on being the best version of yourself you can be every day. This way you will leave less room for grudges to take root, let alone to sow its seeds
- The substitute: Find ways to let the positive things in your life take antecedence and prominence over those nasty sentiments of resentment. When you stack enough of things that have value, things that are special to you, and what you are truly grateful for, they will tower over your grudges and will make the aforesaid grudges feel more and more insignificant and redundant
- Let it go: When you start to realise that the resentment and bitterness has decreased considerably – and this you will know because you will think of it less in time and it will cease to have the same stressful weight it did before – then you need to reach that point of understanding and trusting yourself to let go of the grudge. This is a big step to take, but it is a juncture where you must consider wiping the slate clean. The best way to exorcise a grudge completely is to forgive the person who has stained your kindness and induced your ire. In life people will upset us, disrespect, demean, and demoralise us. We should not be trapped in resentment, because it will become a prison of our own design. Learn from negative experiences. Sometimes we must forgive to let go. Sometimes we must forget to let go. We might not be able to forgive and forget, but we can try.
The Grudge
04 Aug 2021
The Grudge
04 Aug 2021
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