They say love happens at the most unexpected time. Those who have experienced heartbreaks will tell you, it is no different. The worst is the process of finding love again. It’s the thought of opening your wounds and explaining to another soul why you got them in the first place.

What if you are to fall in love with someone who, just like you, has had their heart broken? Do you think you’ll be able to lead a peaceful life with them?

Although books and movies have set our standards high above, the reality can be different. Especially if you step into a relationship with high expectations of how you want your partner to be. Let me give you a disclaimer, it is not a Nicholas Sparks or Jane Austen novel of romance. It’s a fresh love story you’ll be writing with them.

The challenges

One of the main challenges is that you are about to take responsibility for yet another broken soul. Are you able to help another soul to carry their baggage, unpack and organise while handling your own? None of this is briefed to you in the movies you watch or the books you read. It’s going to be amateur work. There are going to be a lot of downfalls.

Falling in love with a broken soul is like reading a complicated book. If you are an avid reader, you know you cannot put it away until you have understood it completely. It’s going to take time for you to catch the details.

Broken souls guard their hearts. They prefer not to create an attachment again. When you both have been in the same kind of pain, you can relate to each other. The two of you will ensure you do not break each other’s hearts again because you know what it felt like once.

A kaleidoscope of butterflies in your stomach

In times when the relationship gets hard, compassion will lift you two forward. You’ll both create a close connection despite the different circumstances you have individually been through. You may not be able to relate to the abuse he experienced as a child, and he may not be able to relate to your sexual abuse as a teen. But you’ll both connect through empathy. They can read through your worst nightmares. They’ll understand your most silent and loud days.

Falling in love with another broken soul can bring the dead butterflies in your stomach alive. This time, the butterflies will be more colourful and free. They’ll lift you to places you could not have with anyone else. It’s the extreme level of intimacy two broken souls can share through shared thoughts. “You know me so well” and “I can relate” can take you two to different levels of love.

Sometimes, it’s not about the flowers he buys you or the surprises you plan for him. It’s the “I am here for you” and “I have been here, and I know how well to bring you out of this” that will feel like a beautifully wrapped present in this relationship. Two broken souls can survive together. They can survive better than anyone else together because they know what it is to stick through the worst and the best. To keep promises, to treat each other right. Two broken souls can survive together because they’re creating the kind of love that they could not find in their past. It’s the kind of love that’ll last, forever and beyond.

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