For many of us, self-care is an essential part of our routines. Whether it is recovering from a bad time or taking care of our day to day lives, self-care is considered an essential. Yet despite the popularity of the term, self-care means different things to different people.
For some, it is waking up early to exercise before work. For others, it is spending time with family, reading a favourite book or taking a few quiet moments away from a busy schedule. It does not have to involve expensive products or elaborate routines. At its core, self-care is about recognising our own needs and making time to support our physical, emotional and mental wellbeing.
“For someone coming out of a breakup, I need to take care of myself now more than ever,” Amaya De Silva,28, told The Daily Morning Brunch. “And this is why self-care, even talking with a friend helps.”
More than a wellness trend
The rise of social media has made self-care more visible than ever. Images of luxury holidays, skincare routines and relaxing spa days are often presented as the ideal way to unwind. While these activities can certainly help some people, they are only one small part of what self-care can be.
True self-care is often much simpler. It can mean eating regular meals, getting enough sleep, staying active, setting healthy boundaries or reaching out to someone when life feels overwhelming. These everyday choices may not look glamorous but they can have a lasting impact on our health and quality of life.
“Whenever I get stressed I do go for a spa day to help clear my mind,” Mira Tiwari,57, said. “It’s something that helps me destress and enjoy myself.”
Many people also find that self-care helps them become more productive and resilient. Looking after ourselves allows us to better manage work, studies, relationships and unexpected challenges. Rather than being an indulgence, it becomes a practical way of maintaining balance.
A different meaning for every generation
Because everyone's experiences are different, self-care often changes throughout life.
For children, it can be about having time to play, express emotions and feel safe.
"When I have a bad day at university, I like drawing or riding my motorcycle,"Yasith Perera, 22, said. "After that I usually feel much happier."
Teenagers and young adults often face the pressures of exams, friendships and social media. Many are learning the importance of stepping away from screens and making time for themselves.
"I realised I didn't need to reply to every message immediately," says 19-year-old university student Amaya. "Now I switch my phone off for an hour every evening. I read, listen to music or just relax, and it helps me sleep better."
For working adults, self-care often means balancing careers, finances and family responsibilities.
"I used to think being busy all the time meant I was successful," Ruwan Perera,44, said. "Eventually I was exhausted. Now I make time for a morning walk and I avoid checking work emails after dinner. It has made a huge difference."
Parents often find it difficult to prioritise themselves while caring for others.
“As a mother, I always put my children first,” Mifla Sajjaad,31, said. “But I realised I couldn't give my best if I was constantly tired. Even taking twenty minutes to read or enjoy a cup of tea without distractions helps me recharge.”
Older adults also have their own routines that support wellbeing.
"My garden has become my peaceful place," Hafsa Nazeer,71, said "Watering the plants every morning gives me exercise, fresh air and something to look forward to each day."
Small habits, lasting benefits
One of the biggest misconceptions about self-care is that it requires a great deal of time or money. In reality, many of the most effective habits are simple and free.
Getting enough sleep allows the body and mind to recover. Drinking enough water, eating balanced meals and staying physically active all contribute to better health. Spending time outdoors, even for a short walk, can improve mood and reduce stress. Talking with trusted friends or family members can also help people feel supported during difficult times.
Taking breaks is another important habit. Whether someone is working, studying or caring for family members, short breaks throughout the day can improve concentration and prevent burnout.
Many people are also becoming more aware of the importance of setting boundaries. Learning to say no, limiting unnecessary commitments and protecting personal time can reduce stress and improve overall wellbeing.
Looking after mental health
Self-care is closely connected to mental health. While simple daily habits can improve wellbeing, they are not a replacement for professional support when it is needed.
There are times when stress, anxiety or low mood become difficult to manage alone. Speaking to a counsellor, psychologist or doctor is also an act of self-care. Seeking help demonstrates strength and self-awareness rather than weakness.
“I go to a therapist regularly to get the help that I need,” Rajni Tiwari,18, said. “It helps me deal with stress, especially from exams.”
The growing willingness to discuss mental health has encouraged more people to recognise when they need support. Families, schools and workplaces are also beginning to understand that emotional wellbeing deserves the same attention as physical health.